They aren’t asking for people to call THEM ‘pregnant people’. They are asking that nobody be called ‘expectant mothers’. How about the very large group of us women who would like to be addressed as such?
Because it is insulting and degrading to attempt to force me to deny the truth and reality, to lie.
It is uncharitable to reinforce someone’s delusion by cooperating in it.
There’s actually a children’s tale about using shame/intimidation to manipulate folks into being afraid to speak obvious truths, perhaps you’ve heard of it? from Wikipedia-
“The Emperor’s New Clothes” (Danish: Kejserens nye Klæder) is a short tale written by Danish author Hans Christian Andersen, about two weavers who promise an emperor a new suit of clothes that they say is invisible to those who are unfit for their positions, stupid, or incompetent. When the Emperor parades before his subjects in his new clothes, no one dares to say that they don’t see any suit of clothes on him for fear that they will be seen as “unfit for their positions, stupid, or incompetent”. Finally, a child cries out, “But he isn’t wearing anything at all!”
Let’s say some transgender group wants us to stop using gendered pronouns altogether and invent some gender neutral universal pronoun to replace the awkward “s/he” and grammatically incorrect “they”. Would you immediately start calling everyone “per-child-ee” or whatever pronoun this group suggested.
I don’t work in the medical field but I don’t call anybody anything until I know them. I’ve never used the term “expectant mother” before and don’t plan on starting now. If this implausible situation occurs in my life I will call them a “pregnant person” if they want me too but I can’t imagine people in social situations like to be referred to in such clinical terms.
It would probably be more like, “I see/heard you are pregnant, congratulations!”. We don’t usually use gendered terms when speaking in familiar terms anyway.
I do try and use non-gendered terms when I’m at work speaking to a customer. I wish there was a better word than “spouse”, it doesn’t flow off the tongue like husband or wife does.
This also reminds me on how many secularists want everyone to say “Happy Holidays” and “Seasons Greetings” to everyone so as not to offend non-Christians.
Well, next December, when greeting a Catholic priest, nun, or even someone I knew to be a non-Catholic Christian who made that obvious, such as wearing a cross, “WWJD” bracelet, or somesuch, then guess what, I’m going to say “Merry Christmas” and not feel the least bit guilty about it.
Okay, fine for you, honestly I get your position. I’ll continue to try to understand people who suffer tremendously, who have terrifying rates of suicide and who are made fun of and marginalized in society. If I can do something that makes them feel more accepted, happy to do it.