[quote="Leegal, post:8, topic:275056"]
Maybe a religious will show up to answer. The Church does not recognize your civil marriage.
Obviously, the priest can explain this but I would think that convalidation cannot take place until after you are confirmed. Your priest knows and you received absolution, but you are not yet confirmed. So, the priest is waiting to confirm you before he will convalidate the marriage.
If you confessed and received absolution there should be no problem going to communion as long as you and your husband are "apart" since the absolution.
If he divorces you it will be a civil divorce (I hope he can wait and you can save the marriage). But if you do divorce, the Church never recognized your civil marriage and you are not married.
When are you due to be confirmed? Ask the priest; I believe you can receive the Eucharist since 1) you confessed and received absolution for the civil marriage which is not valid in the Church and 2) then lived "apart" from your husband -- physically. Surely, the priest can reassure you if you are doing everything he told you to do after absolution. Even if your husband divorces you, you are not married in the eyes of the Church. You won't need to confess again and again, but the priest can reassure you that absolution took place.
God Bless. I it works out that you can convalidate and stay together. Can you talk with your mother? I gather he moved out because of disagreements with your mother.
There is no set date for confirmation. Yes my parish priest knows my situation with my marriage, at least, being married in a civil service, our living with my parents, the relationship between my husband and mother. My husband having moved out though, I have not yet discussed with him. I was shell shocked last weekend. So on Monday I hope to call and see if I might be able to make an appointment to speak with him.
We have lived as brother and sister (no relations) since January 21st of last year (actually, even some before then but for certain from that date as I made my first confession that day in nearly 20 years) and I have gone to confession quite a few times since.
I do hope and pray that we can save our marriage. That something can be done. I need him though to be willing to work with me. To see while our living arrangements at the moment are not ideal, my daughter and I love him and we can make it work until we can better the situation. I'm just not sure if he wants to try. He just keeps telling me he's "not going to change." That he "wants a home [of his] own." And I understand that, but in the meantime, home is where your family is. Not just a place where you get to call the shots, which what it seems he wants.
Ah! I don't know. Tonight, I've gone the gamut of emotions. So until tomorrow ... I'll keep praying. and hehe well I'll pray tomorrow too :P
Thank you and God bless you too Leegal.
(I apologize if I'm more long winded than in any way making sense in my posts.)