[quote="Veronica97, post:2, topic:284383"]
May I suggest that the reason you are afraid of the Bible, is because you are afraid of what it will tell you that you need to do? We don't always want to know the Truth, because it means we may have to change!! :)
It’s overwhelming. I’ve been through more change than a Coinstar, I don’t know if I can take anymore. I’m happy with where I’m at now…a very different place than 6 months ago…. I like your “start slow” – it’s too overwhelming to try to do all of it at once. Maybe it takes longer than a few weeks.
[quote="Rich_C, post:3, topic:284383"]
Have you considered finding a spiritual director among the good priests you know? Besides that, since you're newly returned to the Faith, take it slowly and focus on meeting your basic obligations: assisting at Mass every Sunday, and going to confession whenever you commit a serious/mortal sin.
I’ve been recommended one, but haven’t gone yet. Same reason I don’t want to open a Bible. I’ll eventually go…a lot of people have pointed me to that. I’m not really sure how to prepare for it, exactly. As for confession, I try to go once a month. In the past it’s been because I’m trying to be an example. I need to approach confession differently in my mind…instead of viewing it as something intimidating I need to start thinking of it as something refreshing.
[quote="TheRealJuliane, post:5, topic:284383"]
No selfishness allowed. You can't have self-directed pleasure like that and be in communion with Him. Sex is made for a man and a woman to bond within a marriage, and to create children. For no other reasons! Not just for grins and giggles. Do you think God does anything that amazing just so we can keep it to ourselves? No, He has a much bigger plan for us!
I was just saying in general…I never said I grinned or giggled… :whistle: Another thing is ABC, I do respect people who use NFP and admire how disciplined they are, but I couldn't ever rely on that. If it failed once it would be too much. NFP as I see it is more for couples who are open to having kids, and I’m 22 so I’m not open to that at all. Well, if it happened, I would do my best to be a parent and not freak out, but even if I got married this year, that still wouldn’t mean I’m ready for kids, so it would have to be ABC. The weird thing about this – I feel like God’s okay with it but my community isn’t, so I’m trying to please Catholics more than I’m trying to please God. I know I’m supposed to know better, but I’m too afraid to use NFP. If it failed, I’m in no position to be in charge of someone else’s life. I don’t mean to justify sin, I really don’t…I’m so tired of being different from other Catholics. Sometimes it feels like I know too much, and that knowledge is scary.
[quote="TheRealJuliane, post:5, topic:284383"]
Praying for you! I just have this feeling you are going to do amazing things!
Yesterday a kid was standing in the hallway of the church downstairs where the youth classes are… I’d never seen him before, and I was gonna walk past him, but I went back… He’s 16, he started talking to me about how “my people” could still believe in God, and he told me all this stuff that happened to him as a kid…. I didn’t try to make him come to church or anything, didn’t want him to think I was trying to recruit him… but I told him I’d been there, and he asked me if it would be okay for him to sit in on a mass and see if it was something he could learn from. I said of course. Even if he doesn’t ever come to church again, I think he now has some good ideas of what changes he wants to make to have a better life. I don’t think that was my influence, I think he was just young and about to get to the point where you look at your life and realize what changes you have to make to create a better situation for yourself. I think he just wants to feel welcomed somewhere, which is what I never had as a kid and teen because many the Catholics in my congregation were extremely critical of others. So I'm glad I went back to talk to the kid.
[quote="bscastro, post:7, topic:284383"]
Obey the Church while you learn about the faith - as opposed to doing things the Church teaches are sinful and then find out later that you understand and agree they are sinful. ...
Maybe a silly analogy, but don't get burned while you're figuring out for yourself whether the iron is really hot!
I'm trying to obey the church. (Did that just come out of my mouth?)
YES. I'm trying to obey the church. It's new. It's interesting.
I hate it.
I've been very angry with the church in the past...many congregations forget what this whole thing is supposed to be about, and I've been very hurt and screwed up in the past by people who think they're acting in the name of God but really are just trying to bully others, including little kids. I swore I'd never set foot inside another Catholic church, but God gave me another chance that I didn't at all deserve, so I'm trying to give others another chance too.
I have a few memories of putting my hand flat on the stove burner as soon as my dad turned it on just to prove I could. My ex-girlfriend had a name for it, she called it “being a bastard.” She’s so graceful and sweet.