[quote="Rosa1234, post:1, topic:224775"]
I am a 19 year old college student at a Catholic college, and I have been dating a 17 year old boy for almost a year now. We are both good Catholics who go to church together, and have had an amazing relationship together: pure, respectful, loving, etc.
In fact, we both have talked about getting married after college (we are both in our second year of college... he started when he was 15) Although we know this is well in the future, we always try to discuss this to make sure we are on the same page as to where our relationship is headed.
Now, the problem is, a week ago, he mentioned to me doubts he had about us. Nothing in particular, he just said "sometimes, I have trouble knowing what God wants me to do... I feel like sometimes I am called to be with you, other times, I worry and feel another call... I don't know what that other call is though, and if it is even a call."
Is this something normal? We love each other very much, and in a few weeks will be our anniversary. Does this mean we aren't called to be with each other or are doubts normal? Thank you!
You call him a 17 year old BOY. That is what he is. He must be smart, having started college at age 15 or 16, but this does not mean that he is mature, as mature as you are, or mature enough for a serious, committed relationship. He must care about you or he might have already called things off. At 17, as a college sophomore, he and you are probably some of the youngest members of your class. Especially him. To start college at age 15/16! It would be hard to do that with no one to count on. He's out of his element around 18 and 19 year olds.
What do your parents think of this relationship, and what do his parents think? If you were my daughter, I'd sit you down and have a chat about this. I'd say you are getting quite serious thinking about marriage when this BOY is just 17. Sounds like you have the future pretty mapped out while he is still a little dodgy on how he fits into your plan. Or if he wants to be in your plan in the way you picture it.
I don't know that you will want to lighten things up, but since he is sending you a signal that he might be hearing a call in another area, I'd start detaching a little bit now.