I showed this thread to my husband, and he agreed with me entirely.
The Catholic School Girl Look is very arousing to many men and some women, because it transmits a “challenge” to these men and women–the “Catholic School Girl” is “not available,” and that is the challenge. The man or woman wants to be The One who conquers the School Girl.
Also, we discussed the fact that anytime a woman dresses differently than her peers, she stands out and calls attention to herself, even though that’s not her intent. Some men and women find this uniqueness, especially if it is done unintentionally by an innocent and virginal young woman, sexually provocative.
My husband agreed with me that it would be better for a grown woman to drop the Catholic School Girl look and try for something a bit more grown up and fashionable. This can be beautifully done without compromising modesty or femininity, and without costing a fortune.
Just be careful not to inadvertantly adapt a style of dress that is equally provocative, even though it is modest. Sometimes in their attempts to dress modestly, women end up appearing even more sexually provocative! I know, this sounds so complicated! That’s why I suggested enlisting the aid of a older, wise Catholic woman who has fashion/image skills. She should be able to honestly tell you whether your attempts to be modest are actually having the opposite effect. E.g., long (ankle length) dresses, especially soft, flowing dresses, can be arousing. So can business suits, if they make the woman appear “off limits.” So can jumpers–again, the jumper can give the impression of a young, sexually-unaware, woman who wants to be “awakened.” You have to be so careful! Sometimes the fashions that “modest” women are repelled by are actually the best choices for modesty, with some adjustments, of course, e.g. adequate coverage.
Again, I’m so sorry that the world is like this. But it is. Women have to be wise.