I am an Eastern Rite Catholic, specifically Byzantine-Ruthenian. Our children are baptized, chrismated (confirmed), and communed as infants, and they receive communion from that point forward.
My family currently resides in an area that has no Eastern Rite parishes. We attend a local Roman Rite parish for Sunday Mass and for Confession. We approached the priest at the parish and explained our Eastern Rite tradition of communing the children. Our two oldest are 10 and 8 years old so there isn’t a problem with them. But he is not comfortable serving our 4 year old. He said I could receive in the hand, break the host in two, and share with my 4 year old son.
I am very uncomfortable with this. Every time I do it, I feel like I am desecrating our Lord’s Body, and scandalizing any Roman Rite parishioners who might observe me. I cry every time we drive home after Mass.
Am I doing anything wrong? What else can I do? This is the only priest in the area who is even willing to go this far in communing our 4 year old. I don’t want to deny him communion when he has been receiving it up to this point.