[quote="opera, post:1, topic:177375"]
Please pray for my elderly parents, especially my mother, to find a competent and ethical primary care doctor. Their current one seems to subscribe to the attitude that the elderly don't need decent and reasonable care because, from a statistical stand point, they'll be dead in ten years anyway. Both of my parents have high blood pressure, and in my mother's case in particular, the doctor doesn't seem to take the matter seriously.
Thank you so much for your prayers.
St. Raphael, patron saint of healthcare workers, pray for us.
Good morning Opera,
I can feel your pain and concern my dear. My parents went through the same thing many years ago until I stepped in.
Some doctors have the attitude as you stated above but not all. It was difficult for my dad many years ago because he had a rare Parkinson's and later on was stricken with Alzheimer's.
My dad died on Thanksgiving of 2 years ago due to these life depleting deceases.
I had to step in because our "elderly" parents aren't forceful enough with doctors and health insurance companies. Some of our parents have a hard time expressing themselves and also remembering all of their ailments can become difficult.
During the time of my dads illnesses, my mom was diagnosed with cancer. Not only did I have my dad to take care of, but now I had my mom as well.
After taking mom all over the place for tests and lab work, I found a cancer specialist who was very kind and understanding, but believe me, it wasn't easy to find this "angel doctor".
After going through a mastectomy and cancer treatments, my mom who is now 75 is cancer free.
However, it didn't stop there. One month after my dad died, mom had a stroke at home while she was alone and was down for about 4 hours. We found her at 6am like that and called 911.
I thought I was going to lose her. After spending 1 1/2 months in the hospital, I was with my mom from 8 in the morning until 8 at night at which point I would come home to sleep and repeat the process of returning to her bed side.
I spoke with all doctors & nurses. I had to know everything and I made every decision for my mom. I took all sort of notes and made sure nothing went unchecked by the medical staff.
Once she was released, she ended up in a hospital for re-hab. Walking, talking, eating, memory... etc.. etc..
She was there for 1 month and again I was by her side all day.
When she was released, she stayed with me for 1 1/2 months and & had talked to her insurance company & primary care for in house care to continue her re-hab. I got it & the insurance paid for it.
Well, once mom recovered from the stroke, it wasn't over. She's been sick with all sorts of different problems.
From pneumonia, to breathing problems, lung infections... you name it.
I have taken her everywhere and I find all of the specialists doctors for her.
I speak to her primary care on a continuous basis and tell him everything. I discuss all of her medications and anything that is bothering my mom.
I don't leave the doctors office until everything I went in for is cleared up and a follow up is to take place. My mom has been in a state of joy for many years now because she knows that I will take care of her with her medical needs.
Perhaps it's the Leo in me that has aggressively gone after the medical & insurance field.
Hugs & Prayers to you and your parents & I wish you well.