MIL is a retired nurse. I have observed that when she is depressed she expresses it in the form of anger. FIL is the caregiver for his wife (MIL). Again, I have observed that MIL is talented at iscolating FIL to get her way.
Now, MIL has had a very bad cough for three months. She is a closet smoker and blames the cough on asthma and allergies. She refuses to see a doctor because she is a nurse and believes she knows more than doctors do. Sure maybe she knows more but her husband … Her caregiver doesn’t know … And I bet he’s scared. I would even speculate that MIL wants to die to make people feel guilty about stuff (another long story). Or she may even feel it’s her duty to die. Bottom line is she has a plan in which she is not sharing with anyone (except maybe God). Further, she doesn’t goto Mass, confession, or any sacrament (Says priest gave her dispensation five years ago).
My heart is telling me to focus on the caregiver (FIL) and call their doctor to see if a house call with a social worker/psychologist would be available. It seems with the marital short comings in their marriage the caregiver’s lost and communication is progibited. When my dad passed away, I found hospice services life saving. IDK if she needs hospice, palliative, or just oxygen (which she would refuse). However, I know FIL would be helped if someone talked this out with him; instead of blindly being obedient to his wife.
With the sacraments, IDK if I should try to get her interested in seeing a priest. Do priests make house calls?
I am low person on the Totum pole … But it drives me crazy to watch this train wreck when we could put on boundaries and safety belts. Any advice?