[quote="snowpea, post:1, topic:227910"]
In anger I sent a horribly cruel email to a very long time online friend.
I am sickened about how hateful I was and every time I think about it I feel terrible.
She is very volatile - otoh she is very opinionated and has let me down many times-which is what prompted the email outburst.
I feel so bad over it I really dont know what to do.
Can a person make things better after being hurtful? I can't see how-otoh maybe I was being passive aggressive and tried to end the friendship with an easy excuse because I dont want it anymore.
I am not sure...I just hate hurting her either way and would like to mend that.
Any advice is welcome.
You can attempt to call her and apologize or you can simply leave it alone. Either way the damage is done so unless she is the forgiving sort, I'd guess that she'll either fire one back at you or there will be an almost eerie silence from her corner. I would recommend never emailing someone you are angry with. Instead, calm down and either phone them or better yet, speak to them in person. Written text (email, these forums, etc) are the worst means to communicate known to mankind. Facial expressions, body language, tone, voice inflections, etc... are all absent and messages that were type get misunderstood all the time.