Embarassing Question- Marital Gift Fulfillment


#1

Ok I have a question (I hope it's not too graphic) The other night when my husband and I were having intercourse, he climaxed and I didn't. He felt absolutely horrible about it and told me that he feels like a failure that he can't make me climax (it doesn't matter how much foreplay or nothing, I just don't) However to make him feel better I manually got myself to climax after the act when he left the room. I told him about it and he was happy that I was able to climax, however, did I sin? because if I did, I didn't know it was since we are married and it was for both of us. And if it was, then I received communion since then and I received unworthily. I am freaked out did I commit a sin even if I didn't know I was? Please help :crying::crying:


#2

If you stimulated yourself when he was out of the room, that's called masturbation and yes, it's a sin. Go to confession and now that you know you shouldn't be doing that, you won't make that mistake again.


#3

Yes, that's a sin.

Next time have him do the manual stimulation and then he gets his turn if you get my drift. If you do it, it's a sin. If he stimulates you then you have intercourse where he climaxes inside you, that's perfectly permitted.

Your're problem is who's doing the stimulation and the order in which you do it.


#4

For the woman's climax, the order doesn't matter. Before or after - either is permitted.


#5

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For the woman's climax, the order doesn't matter. Before or after - either is permitted.

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I guess you're right but who's doing it does matter, If I have it right. Not only that but both can enjoy it more if you time it right.


#6

I set up an emergency confession appointment with my priest just in case anyways. But I do thank you all for helping. It means a lot to me :D


#7

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