Friends who have been following my story, I need some desperate advice.
OK you know my saga, separated 4 times in the past 2 years for a stripper chasing husband----the same stripper who my h's been in love with for 3 years now.....
Well we've been back together living together now for a few months. A month ago, he phoned her for 1 minute, after he claimed it was OVER. I saw this on his cell records on line. He said "it was a mistake". OK, the phone dialed itself. Right.
Yesterday he took our car going to visit his parents, 7 miles away!!!! I noted the odometer Sunday night.
I was busy in my room office job hunting, writing letters, etc. So didn't even come out for most the day. I saw him maybe 6 hours later.
Today I notice he put 100 miles on our car yesterday!!!!! I asked him where he went besides his folks, he claimed "shopping" yet came home with nothing. Shopping would not be 100 miles of driving--maybe 10 additional. And men do not go window shopping. My h doesn't. He only goes when he needs something. I DO NOT BELIEVE HIM. I FEEL IN MY GUT AND IN MY INTUITION HE WENT TO THE STRIP CLUB YESTERDAY. I asked him today to please be honest with me, and he proceeded with his lies. Or so I feel.
I told him he should move out, for good this time. THAT I CANNOT TAKE THIS ANYMORE AND THAT I CANNOT BE MARRIED TO A HUSBAND I CAN'T TRUST. He said "I don't want to be married to you anymore either". He claims that's what he did yesterday, which I feel is ridiculous! I feel he went there. Monday is half price on all nude lap dances too~! He knows this full well. What explains those 100 miles? That totally accounts for this place as it's about 40 miles away.
Was I wrong to ask him to move out again? I am literally sick because of all this.!!!!! I am going to get physically ill. I do not trust him. He is not making any effort to change, has quit seeing his counselor, and claims sports is more important than his men's bible study so hasn't gone to this for 2 weeks now either.
He is also flirting with girls on his facebook! So I just saw just now. One gal says for him to "stop it, she's involved and he's married". I'm trying to print this out to show him. It's disgusting and sad.
Is the right decision to make? Asking him to leave because of lack of trust? I have no proof of yesterday where he went, just a gut feeling. What do any of you think about this? Please write back soon
I cannot take it! Yet I still have no job. We have no marriage any longer. He lies, deceives me, betrayed me, and keeps doing it.
When he gets home from work tonight, all ___ will hit the fan I am afraid. I still have no job, yet this is turning into severe emotional abuse. My counselor said this to me. She is right. He disrespects me, and this really hurts alot. I am so scared. I need my Blessed Mother and God to intervene. Please pray for me today!
I do not know how I'll make it alone. Or even be strong enough to get a job. I've been through so much.
Please let me hear from you.