Married 10 years to someone who is a dedicated father, works hard, loves his family but has very little interest in spending time with me, his wife, very controlling about money, has serious anger issues and random mood swings (from very happy to snapping at something very minor, like a room that is not clean), not interested in sex and spends more time with laptop (not what u think but he's no longer on those sites as of years ago although he was somewhat addicted for a bit).
We've done marital counseling, Retrouvaille - tried to get him interested in doing more journaling but he lost interest in that as well although I tried to write very positive and encouraging entries. We both have very demanding, professional careers but I've tried to schedule date nights, just time alone but it seems very one-sided. We're in Catholic faith-based counseling again (going on 6 years now) - well, I was in counseling before, husband wasn't participating in the 1 counseling session we tried and said it was very uncomfortable for him to talk about his feelings in front of a stranger. (In his culture, men do NOT talk or show their feelings, it's not considered manly). I'm feeling trapped and in the middle of emotional shutdown and cannot stop thinking of a life without him - we're in separate bedrooms for breathing space and I feel sooo relieved, like I can breathe again as being around him is like walking on egg shells - he can explode at any minute. He says his job is fine (he often says he hates his job and feels underappreciated) - is it bad to stay separated physically while we go through counseling? I cannot even stand being in the same room with him right now but I'm trying so hard to "soften my heart" to be open to him but it's really hard for me, almost impossible. Would love ur thoughts!