Thanks for the advice and encouragement! I will remember the participants in this thread tonight before the Blessed Sacrament.
[quote=Lexee15]I’m a different person, my priorities have changed and what I want and need in a husband are very specific and those wants and needs revolve around God and my Faith. I pray that God will be merciful with me and put “that” man in my path…I will pray for you too.
I couldn’t have said this any better. I compromised too much on what I wanted in a wife, and it back-fired. A tough lesson to learn, but thank God for His mercy. Strong Catholic values are more important than I first thought. I honestly think I would be better off not to marry than to compromise like this again.
[quote=monicatholic]Brian, I am grateful to God for the merciful decree!
do you have kids? if so, how many, how old? that would certainly make a difference how you proceed
No kids, and in this case, that is another of many reasons to praise God! My parents divorced when I was 3 or 4 years old (I don’t remember exactly when, and I don’t ask them about it either). I would be an emotional wreck if children had been involved in this. I am extremely sympathetic to those of you who are in that position. You will be in my prayers tonight as well.
[quote=convert31]Brace yourself: dating is going to be awkward whenever you’re very far outside the mainstream. My MO is to lead with the dealbreakers before the first date: “I’m Catholic, and I intend to see to it that my relationships conform to Church teachings. That means not only that I can’t have premarital sex, but that I’m kind of a prude about kissing as well. Also, I’m one of those Catholics that won’t use artificial birth control even within marriage. Seriously. So if you aren’t OK with that, let’s not bother.” It’s awkward, but it prevents more awkwardness later.
I see nothing wrong with setting the foundation like this. However, I am going to the next level with it. I am looking for a 100% practicing Catholic. I want to be at church with my wife on Sunday, not alone while she stays home. I also want her to be a regular participant in the Sacrament of Reconciliation. The grace from that Sacrament is so necessary for a strong relationship. Basically, I want someone who recognizes that marriage is a Sacrament, a life-long bond, that requires grace to sustain it.
I won’t be dating non-Catholics. It just won’t work for me.