lol!!! Clearly, you have never had children… and I say that lovingly, as I thought similarly before I had my first and now have a typical wild toddler and 5 month old.
Whenever I am not cantoring for mass and am in the pews with my husband and children, I usually am not paying attention to mass because I’m either attending and disciplining the toddler in the vestibule or nursing the other. I don’t want to be disrupting anyone’s spiritual life by my toddler and I’m constantly on edge because I know how other people can be. From what my older family members have told me, you spend most of your young parenting years hardly paying attention to mass and stressed out. It’s a trying time and you get through it. That said, I’m usually working as a musician for mass, so I have my own single seat and don’t have to worry about being crowded in. My husband usually bears the brunt of the stress unless my parents are there to help. I do have to say, though, that when I hear or see my daughter not behaving from the musician’s seat, I do get all sweaty and stressed.
I’m certainly not complaining or making excuses. Like you said, I’m one of those who chose to be married and have children and it’s part of life when you have a young family. I wouldn’t trade any of the extra stress and difficulties I may have from this life even though being single or childless was much easier than I thought when I was in those stages of my life.
In regards to the OP, I personally believe that I should never expect anyone to move in. I have always been and will probably always be an end sitter no matter where I am, whether in church, on a train, on a couch, etc., so I completely understand people’s preferences and reasonings. It’s on me to do what I need to do in order to get to mass early enough for an end pew. But I can also completely understand your frustration. I was just telling my husband yesterday how I remembered the days when I could be out the door in 10-15 minutes or less. Now I have to allocate at least 1-2 hours just to get my kids ready. What should take 5 minutes just to put on a pair of socks and shoes on a toddler and change a diaper will somehow suddenly become a 40 minute task. lol! I laugh because negativity helps no one, especially me.