Hi, I’ve been reading a lot on the forums and decided to join. It’s been great to read about a lot of issues and I have continued to learn alot. I’m not sure if this is the right forum to post this thread, but I thought I’d just ask the question myself.
I grew up Catholic and attended both grade school and high school. I was pretty firm in my faith, however; I did have a set of very very bad life circumstances which ultimately severed my relationship with God for about 7 years. I thought for a long time I’d never really move past that event in my life and last year I finally found peace and also my relationship with God. It’s of course not perfect, but I have made my way back and I’m wanting to continue to strengthen that and move forward in a positive manner.
I started seeing someone about 10 months ago. She was raised Catholic and received the sacraments then later she practiced Mormonism. Currently she doesn’t practice either or really attend church in any regard. I’m not sure what the official term would be, but she’s basically not practicing anything.
We were physical during the relationship quite a bit and I really wanted to stop as it runs counter to being Catholic. She was very upset at this understandably. We had a long discussion and also I asked her point blank about her religious stance again.
She said she prays and said she wants to develop it more. I proposed the idea of RCIA and she really wasn’t interested. I had a difficult decision to make b/c I really wanted to take things further and she’s a good person to me, but it was pretty evident we were not on the same wavelength in regards to religion.
It was one of the hardest decisions I have had to make in my life. I’ve found my way back to God not too long after meeting her, yet I know exactly where her stance it and it’s more towards a casual religious position. I suppose I really had to decide to take a gamble with her that she might eventually convert, or end things.
Ultimately I ended things which was incredibly painful as I really cared about her as a person, but the religion ultimately got in the way. The more I’ve read, I have seen about being unequally yoked. I’ve also read a lot of stories where one spouse was not Catholic and it caused issues.
For me, my end goal would be to raise my children Catholic like myself and have a strong practicing faith (which I have been doing more recently as well).
Does anyone have more insight on this or has ended relationships that have been seemingly well solely based on religion ?
I know deep down it was for the best, but it still has been difficult for me nonetheless.