[quote="flightkid, post:1, topic:187893"]
My fiance have a tough situation and are rather embarrassed about it...We are engaged and have been living with each other for the past 2 years. Before we moved in with each other we both mutually decided we would save the "sexual life" for marriage as a promise to Christ. I had always heard as a Catholic that living together was sinful. I had just assumed that the Church assumed if you were living together you would be "living the active sexual life style" like a married couple. But my fiance and I did not embrace the sexual lifestyle, but still decided to move in with each other not knowing if it is sinful our not. We have discussed it with our priest in pre-marriage counseling and I have gone to confession for "living together" even though we are not sexually active. We have bought a house together and we cannot change the situation of her moving out now because of financial reasons and so forth. We feel really guilty and I want to recieve Christ in the Eucharist, but I would like some advice please....any thoughts or encouraging words since we are already beyond the point of return by not living with each other now? We are getting married in 8 mths from now....please help and do not judge us.....:confused:
The reason why living together without sexual contact is considered a sin by some catholics, is because it is considered scandalous by some.
Here is the Catechism's definition of scandal:
Respect for the souls of others: scandal
2284 Scandal is an attitude or behavior which leads another to do evil. The person who gives scandal becomes his neighbor's tempter. He damages virtue and integrity; he may even draw his brother into spiritual death. *Scandal is a grave offense if by deed or omission another is deliberately led into a grave offense.
2285 Scandal takes on a particular gravity by reason of the authority of those who cause it or the weakness of those who are scandalized. It prompted our Lord to utter this curse: "Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened round his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea."85 Scandal is grave when given by those who by nature or office are obliged to teach and educate others. Jesus reproaches the scribes and Pharisees on this account: he likens them to wolves in sheep's clothing.86
2286 Scandal can be provoked by laws or institutions, by fashion or opinion.
Therefore, they are guilty of scandal who establish laws or social structures leading to the decline of morals and the corruption of religious practice, or to "social conditions that, intentionally or not, make Christian conduct and obedience to the Commandments difficult and practically impossible."87 This is also true of business leaders who make rules encouraging fraud, teachers who provoke their children to anger,88 or manipulators of public opinion who turn it away from moral values.
2287 Anyone who uses the power at his disposal in such a way that it leads others to do wrong becomes guilty of scandal and responsible for the evil that he has directly or indirectly encouraged. "Temptations to sin are sure to come; but woe to him by whom they come!"89
Do you think that you and your fiance's living together is causing others to do evil?