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My boyfriend and I are discerning marriage. Any advice is greatly welcomed!
We are practicing Catholics, been dating almost 2.5 years, and care for each other very much.
Is there anything you wish you knew before you got engaged/married? Any questions in particular I should ask myself? Any books you recommend?
Educate yourselves on the Sacrament of Martimony and what the Church truly teaches about marriage. Do not rely solely on what society thinks marriage should be. Discuss ALL the hot topic issues: birth control/family planning, euthanasia, stay at home or working mom, disciplining children, handling holidays with both sets of parents/families, where you see yourself 5/10/20 years from now, spending time as a couple vs. seeing friends....leave no topic unturned or discussed. Don't let anyone, family or friends, divide you as a couple and undermine your marriage. Always have each other's backs and best interests in mind in any decision you make as a couple and individually. Marriage is a lot of self sacrificing, putting your interests behind your spouse's, everything society will tell you is upside down and backwards. If possible, seek out an older married couple perhaps in your parish that can be mentors and surround yourself with other young married Catholic couples that also are well knowledgeable about the Catholic faith and are trying to live out that faith and their marriage vows to the best of their abilities.