everyone is addressing the sin of cohabitation. I’d like to address your fear of marriage.
Our society has made marriage a negative thing - like it’s some kind of disease. It’s a shame b/c many people will grow old with no children and family to surround them.
I dated MANY men who felt the same way you did. Some of them are now happily married and some of them are now divorced. Some are in the 40’s and dancing around like Peter Pan and it looks really tacky.
Marriage is a gamble and to win big, you have to play big…put in all your chips and take a gamble on someone you love. You’ll either win huge or lose huge. That’s just the way life is. When you don’t marry them, you’re telling them that they are ok to live with, but not special enough to marry. This puts a subconscious wedge in the relationship. Resentment and bitterness will build up and small issues will become bigger issues and b/c there’s no committment, the one that feels the rejection will most likely leave. I’ve seen it happen many times.
My marriage is very good. We get along 80% of the time. We have a close friendship and it’s the memories of our good friendship that gets us through hard times. Once the hard time is over, we’re closer than we were before and the bond is stronger. That’s marriage. I wouldnt’ trade it for ANYTHING!!!
We lived together for 3 years b4 marriage and I was the one building up the resentment that he wasn’t married to me. I felt unloved and rejected. I almost left him and he realized that he was going to lose me. Cohabitation can create a lot of confusion b/c one person always ends up wanting more. Marriage is still important at the end of the day.
Satan offers money, riches, women, sex, porn, parties, indulgence…this life can be very attractive to many. What about living this life at 50? at 60?
So you live with someone. You think perfect; I can get out easily. When you live with someone, the odds you’ll separate are 80%. When you’re married, the odds are 50%. But if you get married for the first time, and are over 35, the odds go down to 40% if you cohabitated and 30% if you didn’t cohabitate.