I had an apiphany just the other day. I have been rather envious of some other people whom have been having some more success, by far, over my freinds and I know that I shouldn’t be envious of this. Does anyone know of anything I could do to work on this, and any other times that envy might catch up on me? Thanks and God bless.
I would suggest a book I am reading now, “True Devotion to Mary” by St. Louis de Montfort (I have the version translated by Faber). Wow is it good, and the reason a book about Mary might help is she was the ultimate in humility and love of neighbor! I have learned a lot so far that I never knew by reading this book (and it has an Imprimatur).
I’ve just started reading True Devotion To Mary. Mine is translated by Francoise de Castro. Do you happen to know if one translation is better than the other?
My suggestion is to try to get a really good view of their entire lives. Although one aspect of their life may seem VERY successful, usually they end up lacking in other areas of ther lives.
NO ONE is perfect. NO ONE has a perfect life.
I think you’d be surprised if you really look at what’s IMPORTANT to YOU… and work on that area of your life. If you are “sucessful” there, then concentrate on that. We all have different gifts and talents.
A couple things:
- One thing to remember is that when this happens, don’t get too hard on yourself. The key though is what you do afterward. Try thinking of something you are thankful for in your life. For example, when I start to feel envious about anything, I remind myself of all of the gifts in my life, such as my healthy, beautiful child.
- Practice more thanksgiving in your prayer both for the things in your life and for the good things that are happening to others. The more you do this, the more I think you will see and experience the abundance of gifts that God has given you.
Hope this helps.
What I would do is stop and pray the moment I’m experiencing the envy. I would thank God for what He has given me, thank Him for what He has given the other person, and ask Him to give me the grace to be truly content with what I have. I often remember something I read about Mother Teresa – when she died all she owned was a rosary, a Bible and her habit, yet she was a joyful and fulfilled and “successful” woman (she was successful in being faithful to the Lord all her life and the beautiful witness she gave to Christ to others).
Isn’t that beautiful.