OK, this is a theological question that has a practical consequence. Please bear with me, and I would appreciate your comments on this:
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing** her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.
so the husband is called to love his wife, as Christ loves the Church. Christ loves the Church in her weakness, her imperfections, even her sins and disobedience. He always forgives, always reconciles, always leads her to perfection.
the wife on the other hand, is called to submit to her husband, as to Christ. Now, I’m not going to get into the whole ‘submit’ argument - that’s been done to death here I think. What I want to focus on is the ‘as to Christ’ part. The Church accepts Christ as her Saviour BECAUSE He is perfect, BECAUSE he is the spotless lamb without blemish, who takes away the sin of the world. If an imperfect Christ came along, the Church would not be called to submit to him, because he wouldn’t be the true Christ.
What I am trying to get at here is this question: Should a wife accept her husband in his imperfections, or should her love for him be conditional on his imaging Christ, while his love for her is unconditional?
I think this approach could lead to a prideful attitude, and I have some things to think about regarding the way I see these things. Any help would be much appreciated.**