I’ll admit that I had a similar take on contraception and how the Church viewed it until a few years ago. I think there’s more than enough blame to go around for this. I’m also one of those who was in school in the 70’s and 80’s and our catechesis was lacking at best. In 12 years of Catholic school, we never discussed contraception. We heard that premarital sex and adultery was wrong, but we also had the occasional teacher who told us that premarital sex was okay if you really thought you loved the other person, or if they were “special.” When my wife and I went through pre-Cana, the people who were supposed to give the presentation on NFP didn’t show up, so we got a pamphlet inserted in our handouts and we were told we could look into it on our own. Then our priest told us that getting on the pill was okay (second priest to tell us this). As for being catechized at home, my in-laws put my wife on the pill at 13 and instead of telling her not to have sex, just told her not to get pregnant. My mom did have a long talk to me about how wrong ABC is and how it’s against our beliefs. Yesterday. For the first time.
Although there seems to be more attention being paid to instilling the Catechism in our kids now, for my part I’m not leaving it up to my kids’ teachers. I talk to my wife and kids regularly about our faith and reinforce anything my girls learn in school. I talk to my son as often as I can about Church teachings and try to fill the gaps in either what he didn’t learn or didn’t pay attention to/forgot. I’m not willing to sit back and let my kids get to my age and not have a good understanding of our faith.