I’ve always used the face-to-face option for confession at my church, because I used to work there (as a vocalist!), and a screen isn’t going to disguise my voice. However, recently I switched to using the screen. The reasons for this have no bearing on my questions.
My understanding is that when a penitent chooses to confess behind the screen, etiquette dictates the priest and penitent behave as if they don’t know each other. Is that correct, or am I wrong?
If in assigning penance from behind the screen, the priest references the name and circumstances of the penitent’s spouse (neither mentioned in the confession), is that a breach of etiquette, or law, or neither?
If in your understanding it’s a breach of some sort, I’d be most grateful if you could cite a source I could go find and read.
Thanks so much.