A few discussions on this forum has really got me confused! Haha.
For those who haven’t seen me out and about, a quick background for you.
I was previously non-denominational Christian, fell into agnosticism in my young adult life, then converted to Catholicism 7-8 years ago (nearing my 8th year - just like a kid I gotta point that out).
I have been struggling with confession for reasons pointed out in another thread but THAT thread opened up a new question.
When I have sought assistance with confession, priests and parishioners alike have responded by handing me those examination of conscience papers that just give you a list of sins and if you committed the sin you confess it in the confessional.
BUT, it has now come to my attention some of the sins on those lists are venial and not mortal. And I always understood you confess venial sins but now I’m being told you don’t have to and maybe shouldn’t.
- should we be confessing venial sins at every confession?
- how the heck does a new Catholic determine a venial sin from a mortal sin??? Especially when examination of conscience lists include both venial and mortal.
Everything is SO DANG CONFUSING!
In my background all sins were exactly equal so this venial/mortal thing does my head in. But at the same time we only believed ONE sin in particular could separate you from God (although that sin changed depending on what Church you attended - yup, more confusion), other sins were simply ‘missing’ the mark and no big deal.
So help a girl out? Does anyone have an examination of conscience that contains only mortal sins? And/or would you suggest I just continue confessing my venial sins and avoid all this confusion?