[quote="PennyinCanada, post:1, topic:242026"]
My aunt, married over 50 years, spoke of being a young single lady who was asked out on a date. The young man showed up for the date wearing jeans and she refused to go out with him, ever. Apparently, jeans were the thing you wore in the barn for barn chores and no respectable man would show up on a date with 'barn clothes' on. It was disrespecting his date, according to aunty.
It made me wonder how people respected each other 50 years ago that you don't see anymore. Please let us know what life was like back in the day. :D
I agree that a lot of manners seem to have gone by the wayside these days.
But on the other hand...
50 years ago, a black woman and a white man, or a white woman and a black man, would not dare to date in public. If they did, they faced real danger, and at the very least, public scorn and rejection by society.
In fact, 50 years ago, it was unusual to see blacks and whites together for any reason. My mother grew up in rural Missouri, and she had a lot of black friends. But there were certain activities they simply couldn't do together; e.g., go into a restaurant together or even sit together on a city parkbench.
And little black children didn't often get to play with little white children.
Also, 50 years ago, it was common to hear someone refer to a black man as "boy," or a black woman as "gal."
And 50 years ago, black people had separate facilities (bathrooms, drinking fountains, etc.) in some states.
And 50 years ago, black people couldn't just move into any neighborhood.
So IMO, when it comes to respecting races, nationalities, skin colors, etc.--we're a lot better off than we were 50 years ago!! Our neighborhood is a salad of people, all mixed together, and it's really fun!
And while we're at it, 50 years ago, in many states, a woman was not allowed to apply for a credit card. And a woman couldn't keep a job once she got pregnant. And it was legal to beat a woman if she was your wife. And women in management positions were rare. And women made a lot less money than a man, even if they were doing the same job.
So again, IMO, we've improved things a lot when it comes to respecting women in the business world.
Yes, there were a lot of good things about the good ol' days, but it wasn't all good.