Hi. I apologise if this is in the wrong forum. A bit of background: I have epilepsy and have been on anti-convulsant medication since I was 8 (I’m now 22). The drug I was on for 14 years stopped being effective around August last year and my meds were changed. I have had 4 seizures since then, mostly recently two days ago. I’ll be changing to a different drug now.
Now, while I won’t be having children in the immediate future (my boyfriend and I have only been dating for 1.25 years), I’m starting to think that because of my medical condition I perhaps shouldn’t be pursuing the vocation of marriage at all. I fully agree with Church teachings on contraception, so would never use it, but with the defects that my medication can cause in a developing child in the womb, I’m not supposed to get pregnant unexpectedly. It would have to be something carefully discussed beforehand with my neurologist and an obgyn.
I guess I was just wondering if other people have had success spacing pregnancy for medical reasons (no need to disclose specifics). I guess one of my main concerns is that I feel bad that my medical condition would mean my potential future husband would not be having as frequent sex as he would perhaps like. I used to think being a mother and wife was my calling and what I wanted more than almost anything, but now I’m thinking I should discern becoming a nun. I do feel called to help people, but I suppose there are multiple ways to do that.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.