I was wondering if anyone here has done a period of, mutually agreed upon, extended abstinence from sexual relations? I ask because my husband and I have agreed upon this, and have been living this way for six months. Has an extended period of abstinence (EPA) been good for your marriage? In what ways have you gotten closer as a couple? What struggles has this caused?
We plan to do an EPA for four or five years to get our lives in order. To make a long story short, we are in a very dire financial situation, being supported by DH's family while DH goes back to college for a second degree. NFP has not worked for us in the past because when the chart says "no relations" we want relations. It has basically caused more strain on our marriage than complete abstinence. (I hate NFP!) We've come to the conclusion that stopping all relations will be better for us than NFP, like an alcoholic should stop all alcohol, or a sugar addict should not eat sugar.
I'm not looking for answers about how wonderful NFP can be, or that I should simply try a different method. (Been there, bought the T-shirt, still hate NFP.) I am simply looking to if others have practiced EPA and for how long? This is still a church-sanctioned way to space children, so please don't give me a hard time about this.