Ok, I want some opinions on this. I think I’m on the right position morally, but would appreciate any opinions on that. I am more looking for how to proceed.
My wife’s aunt recently decided to create a facebook account. She added me as a friend and I accepted (we get along well).
Her 11 year old daughter (niece) then created a page and requested to add me as a friend. I have not (and don’t intend to) accept the request. For the record, I also get along well with her.
So her aunt is talking to me last night and asks me if I got Ashley’s friend request. I told her that I did but I have not added her. She asks me why. I told her that I didn’t want Ashley knowing everything about my adult life. She asked me just what kind of “adult” material I was putting up. I said that I’m not (and with my wife being one of my friends, I’d really have a problem if I did). So I repeated that I just don’t want her knowing that much about my adult life. I get the response back “oh.” Then a few minutes later “it’s not like she’s gonna investigate you, just wants to chat now and then.”
I personally feel that 11 is too young to have a facebook account (especially considering that her mother has brought her “sexy” underwear and told her to hide them so her father didn’t see (I personally witnessed this)). And my wife told me that she’s referred to Ashley as her “sexy daughter.” So I feel that this is a further reason she should not be on facebook (again, in my opinion only).
However, it is not my place to tell her how to raise her daughter. I could tell by the conversation that she was upset/and or didn’t understand where I was coming from. How should I proceed when we talk again?