I have a question about what to do about a facebook friend request. I’m trying to figure out what God would like me to do in this situation.
Here’s the story (sorry for its length): There is one branch of our family that has been rather estranged from us for longer than I’ve been around. My aunt-by-marriage has always seemed to rather look down on us for whatever reason. She and my uncle have two daughters (my cousins). The elder of them seems to have cut herself off from her parents and sister, though she has stepped in admirably to care for our maiden aunt who is now in a nursing home. That cousin and I are Facebook friends. I believe she asked to “friend me” as a way to keep tabs on what’s going on with the rest of the family. She posts only rarely.
The other one seems to have followed her mother’s ways. When I was a child, I adored this cousin but when we were teens she did something that hurt me terribly and showed me without a shadow of a doubt that she always thought herself above me. (I have forgiven her and every time I think of her, I pray for her.) I have not seen her in years and our only contact is through Christmas cards (she does not visit that maiden aunt mentioned earlier). The last I heard she is estranged from her sister.
This second cousin recently sent me a friend request (no note, just the basic request). I believe that, like her sister, it’s simply for her to keep tabs on the rest of the family and to report back to her parents.(It’s just how our family dynamics seem to work.) And also because FB is the current trend (I add this not to be catty but just to try to give additional detail. My cousin and her mother always seem to be following the latest trends.)
Sorry for the long background, but I’m stuck as to whether to accept her friend request or not. Jesus says “Love one another as I have loved you.” I do pray for my cousin and wish her every blessing God has for her and her family. However, what about prudence? Do I have to open up my life (including my children, my in-laws, my friends etc. to her scrutiny (and her parents?) It’s not that I have anything to hide it’s just that I don’t see the point of doing so. (FWIW, I post often (maybe one or two a day): a little bit of everything: video clips I like, news about my husband and children, intriguing news items etc. Nothing preachy or risque. There is nothing my cousin could really do with my posts except gossip about them with my aunt and uncle.)
I feel uncharitable for asking these questions but I’m not sure what God wants of me. What do you think?:shrug:
Thanks and God bless,