I have been wondering what it is about some men that makes them so reluctant to respond to faith and religion.
I am in a mixed marraige (12 years), me faithful catholic, him baptized protestant - but indifferent. I feel like I have been a model wife, faithful to him and to God, never naggy or pushy, cheerful and happy with my home life and my faith. He knows I pray and go to the sacraments.
He is not against the church, and does come to mass once in awhile (Easter, Christmas, Potlucks), he is friendly with Fr. He actually calls it ‘our church’.
But he just doesn’t make a committment to faith. He does on rare occasions have a glimmer of faith - and I pray always that it grows. I think he believes - but just doesn’t act on it.
He is a super hard working guy - I think he believes that the measure of a man is how many hours he puts on the clock, and how much money he makes. His father is the same way - and they had a tight happy family, and they still go to church, and took them as kids - then he quit as a teen.
I am sometimes concerned that something awful would have to happen to cause him to come to repentance.
He has changed a lot since we were married. Has mellowed a lot, become more kind and thoughtful. And I am very happy with him and love him just like he is - he is a good man. But I wish him to have the joy of faith, and an eternal home.
Then I look around at church, and see several women who have the same situation. And there are so many women in the pews whose husbands are absent.
What is it that makes men stubborn toward faith? Maybe it isn’t a gender thing. I wish I knew how to help him better.
I would welcome comments from all. Especially from men who have turned this corner before.