Thank you for all your comments.
I live in the Diocese of Saint Petersburg.
Famil altar servers seem to me to further diminish the special nature of altar servers under the misunderstood directive of “active participation.” I served at a time when it was all boys. People now say the boys will not step up so the girls have to take over. Well in the younger age groups girls tend to be more assertive and their presence elimates many boys from considering serving.
In Redemptionis Sacramentum it states about altar servers, “Associations for them, including also the participation and assistance of their parents, should be established or promoted, and in such a way greater pastoral care will be provided for the ministers.” It also states earlier, “It is altogether laudable to maintain the noble custom by which boys or youths, customarily termed servers, provide service of the altar after the manner of acolytes, and receive catechesis regarding their function in accordance with their power of comprehension.” I think they are misreading this (if they are reading at all) at my current Parish. Above I believe to be speaking about assistance and participation of the parents in the association - not in the serving.
I should not be surprised as this is the same parish that had last year’s RCIA participants walk around the church sprinkling the congregation with Holy Water and consistently allows the Asoociate to ad lib during the Eucharistic Prayer.
Looks like I need to find a new parish.