Hi everyone, this is my first post here and the first time I’ve joined a Catholic forum. I joined here because of an issue that my family is facing and my own struggle with how to deal with this issue.
My sister recently got engaged to a man that has two children with a woman he never married. He was with her for quite a long time and just last year broke up with her because she cheated on him. He’s not Catholic, nor has he been raised in any kind of religion at all. My sister was raised Catholic, but I don’t know that she goes to church much anymore.
They have told my parents that they intend to be married in the Catholic Church because my sister knows that my parents will be upset if they don’t. My parents and I have reservations about this marriage outside of the fact that he’s not Catholic. My concerns are that although they may be married in the Church, I have doubts about how seriously he takes marriage, seeing how he saw fit to have children outside of marriage.
My brother, who also was raised Catholic but doesn’t attend anymore, believes that if my sister is happy he is happy and the fiance’s background is of no consequence to him, further causing a rift in our family.
I am having trouble supporting this marriage even though they say they want to get married in the Church. My questions are- might they run into trouble finding a priest that will marry them? And how do I deal with this issue with my sister when I feel so strongly against it?