hi all, I am having a problem. My husband is stressed all the time - he hates his new job, doesn’t like where we’re living, etc. I am a laid back personality while he is an extreme type A - something that doesn’t go well together. His way of handling an argument is a lot different than mine and cause a huge clash if it gets out of hand - which it does. I am not saying I don’t take blame too - I do. But, when we argue in a nut shell it ends with him asking for a divorce. I get upset and call my parents incase I come back home (I am still really young and would need someone’s help).
Anyway, we argued last night and I had to call my mom and now she’s said if I stay, it’s fine, but she and my dad want nothing more to do with my husband - don’t bring him over again - my mom has a tendency to be REALLY bossy and “speaks” for others, so I don’t know if my dad really said that - she has lied to me before now - including hounding me to get an abortion with my first pregnancy and telling me nobody wanted me to have that baby and that because I was so stressed I probably had “already done something to the baby and it’s prob got some problems or something”, etc (my brother told me he never said any of the things she said he said, and I’m pretty sure my dad never did either). Anyway, my husband wasn’t thrilled either, and I did it - to this day I have issues with it (years later), and no one understands what they pushed me into - at the time I wasn’t really close with God either. My mom still doesn’t care and thinks she was right - as you can see I love my mom, but I am not exactly her fan. I can get into it all day, but I’ll leave it for now.
Let’s just continue on this new issue I guess - my husband is not crazy over my mom or dad either, but he has never forbade me from them - he’s said something in anger (when they have done background checks and other things against him - but who knows, it might have been all my mom again). So, it’s not like some big loss for him, but at the same time he would be pretty mad she would say she never wants to see him again and might even want us not to see them again - I don’t know.
I am not saying we’re staying together, because we’re thinking of seperating since our arguing isn’t helping out our son any (or that’s my husbands argument last night - we had a baby 3 years ago - 2 years after the abortion) but if we do, how should I handle this situation?
I tell you, if I had a job where I could support me and my child I would quite possibly try to get away from them all and move far far away with my son.