My family has been going thru some hard times lately. My uncle Luis passed away 3 yrs ago, and his widow Mary has been causing many problems for my aunt Sandra’s marriage (Luis’ sister).
You see, Sandra is married to a man 13 years younger than her. He’s a very good looking man and he’s a very very nice man. When Mary was widowed, my extended family offered to help her out in everything they could, from moving the lawn, to babysitting her 2 girls. Well, the guy who was mowing her lawn and taking care of her landscaping was Sandra’s DH, David. Out of nowhere, Mary started feeling something for David.
David, as soon as he noticed Mary acting differently toward him, he stopped going to her house and told her to stay away from him. So Mary decided to call Sandra and tell her she was in love w/David and that he loved her. That they were going to leave the US together and never be heard of again.
Sandra had already been made aware of Mary’s behavior because her DH told her. Well, we’ve known Mary for over 20 yrs, so this was a bit of a shock to us. In fact, I was in kindergarden when I met her (even before my unlce Luis met her). You see, she is only 31 yrs old, and David is 30. I guess she felt attracted to him because of his looks, his generosity, and his age.
Sandra tried to keep this problem hidden from the family so no one would look at anyone w/mean and judgemental eyes. But Mary decided to call the ENTIRE family and tell them how David was harrassing her. We all believe Sandra’s side because Mary has also said recently that my DH is after her (because he emailed her once to ask about her girls, and she says he’s asking her for an affair). She also said my dad is after her, that my grandpa is after her, that my other 2 uncles are after her. But of course she tells each and every one a different story. I just found out she’s including DH in her weird stories, and for God’s sake, my grandpa???
Well, now, David and Sandra have been so torn apart to the point where they are ready to call it quits. Mary has done so much damage to everyone, it’s impossible to write it all on here. We always thought Luis was nuts when he said she was crazy. Right before he died they were talking about divorce for the 2nd time. Anyway… what I’m trying to get to is that Mary is ruining my family. She has prohibited many of us to see her girls (my cousins!!) because we’re taking Sandra’s side (my mom’s sister). I don’t know what to do, I feel powerless. I didn’t want to get involved, but Mary has already involved my entire family in California, including David’s mom and sister from Mexico.
At least David suggested a ME, but I said to Sandra to look at Retrouvaille for this. I don’t know what else to do. Mary is going crazy turning people against each other, when we’re all family. In fact, she tried turning my uncle Raul against Sandra, when Sandra is his own sister. Raul called Sandra to tell her she should leave David because of this and that, but of course Mary didn’t tell him how she’s telling everyone that Raul is “after” her too.
How can we bring peace to my family again? This person is ruining the close bond we all had w/each other. Gosh, even her own dad said she was a nut case and a money digger…
I mean, Mary’s gotta be crazy. How can she interpret an email from my DH that says, “Hi Mary, I got your address from my wife. I wanted to see how Jessy and Emily are doing since you don’t come to the family parties any more. Hope you can let them come to our house one day soon”. He signed his name and says, “Please don’t think anything of this email, I just want to know how the girls are doing”. We had knowledge of the problem w/David and Sandra, so he made sure to write that so she wouldn’t think anything of it, but she used it to tell David my DH was after her too.
She’s such a hypocrite, after all my family has done for her…:mad: