OK. Here we go.
I am 16 and having huge family nightmares. My mom and I just got in an argument. It started out as about my laziness. OK, I admit, I am very lazy, but I’m trying to change. It’s just not easy. We have books to read for school next year and I am having a hard time reading them. I love reading, but my mind is all over the place, it isn’t stationary and it’s terribly hard to concentrate. I don’t know why, but it’s hard. She said, "all you do is stay home, eat, sleep and play games. Read your book!"
I replied that that is certainly not true. I do tons of things to benefit the house. And hence my problem, you see why it’s not easy (laziness and instability). These are vices that you just don’t overcome overnight. She said, “If I could stay home as you children do, I would do so much.”
“Why don’t you stay home then. I would’ve loved if you stayed home during my childhood. You were never there…actually.”
“Why are you challenging me. I am your mother. I have more experience…so why don’t you just shut up!”
“You won’t shut me up and you will remember what I said.”
“You children…all you do is challenge me? Is this how you will do in the real world? You don’t know what you’re talking about so stop talking. I don’t want to hear anymore. You know you did something wrong so just accept it and move on.”
“Why do you teach us things you never follow? Such people are called hypocrites. Why do you exclude yourself from the rules you establish? If you make rules, you have to follow them. You’re supposed to leave an example.”
"Why are you always nagging. If you go through the pain I go through, you could not endure, so just move! And go read your book!"
My dad also makes rules that he doesn’t follow. They both do. It is so angering. I don’t understand. Is it that much to ask them follow their own rules? My parents are not exempt from laziness and procrastination.
I should tell you something else. My mom and dad seem (at least to me) consumed in money. When I say to them that they don’t love me, they get mad and start to deny such a thing, citing their services. I came to believe that they care more about doing things for me (as they feel it is a particular duty of theirs), than me!!! Our house is so secular and materialistic. We are all selfish (I feel). I am desperately trying to change my ways, but it is despairing. None of us wants to go to Mass on Sunday…none. I still try to go, but again, I only go when I have to for the most part and have a terrible time concentrating. I don’t know how I feel toward them: sometimes I strongly dislike them other times I love them…I just don’t know. Everyone, even me, are nasty to each other. We all do our own thing and don’t want to be disturbed. We don’t eat together as a family anymore (we stopped like 8 years ago) and we don’t do anything as a family (not that we really have done much).
Is it wrong to tell my parents that they are doing things wrong???
Why is their such a lack of love in our house???