My infant daughter is 7mos old, and the baptism issue is looming large, as my wife and I need to get her baptized ASAP (am trying to beat the 1 yr mark). I am Catholic, and my wife is
non-denominational. According to my parish, it’s ok to select one sponsor/godparent as non-catholic, as long as they are a practicing christian in good standing. The problem is this–due to family politics, normally I’d pick one of my three sisters to be godmother (all are catholic), but if I pick one, then the others would be very jealous and mad. If we select my sister’s only sibling (her sister), then my family would get mad, because my sister-in-law is baptist, and there are other animosities between our families. My wife has largely left the decision up to me. I really shouldn’t pick my older sister because although she is catholic, but is married to an outspoken atheist. If I pick my middle sister, then my oldest sister will get extremely jealous, and say that ‘the whole world revolves her’. …and to make things worse, my wife and my middle-sister do not get along (to say the least). To be honest, no one in my family really likes my wife, but that’s another story. …my other sister is quite distant from the family, and is out of the picture. Neither of my sisters are particularly close to my daughter. My mother is deceased. So right now, I (we) have selected my middle sister’s kids: my nephew, and my youngest niece. Of course, this will make my oldest niece mad at me. Thus, also guaranteeing that everyone will be mad at my wife and I. Also, we don’t have a good set of close friends that are Catholic, and our preference is to keep it in the family. I need suggestions on how to handle this. Else, is there any way to select two sets of godparents/sponsors, or give the families an informal/formal role in the religious upbringing of my daughter?
This is a true dilemna, and any guidance or suggestions are greatly appreciated!