I am new here and I have a kind of complicated and exasperating situation that I’d like some advice on. Here goes
Here’s my situation. My husband and I were both brought up Catholic. When we were in the process of getting married I went to my pastor and asked about my husband to be and I taking our prep classes in different states or doing it by phone or internet because he was living in Colorado and I was in Maryland. I was willing to do anything to be married in my church. He refused me. I think it actually had more to do with my mom at the time than any rule he had. But that’s a long story.
Needless to say I was devastated. As I was a practicing Catholic and had a few years before became confirmed with my teenage son. It was very special to me.
My husband and I were married by a minister we found in an ad in the newspaper.
I allowed this situation to take me from the church I love.
Well 2 children later my husband and I decided to get the kids baptized and go back to the church and even possibly have our marriage blessed. This was in a reasonably busy parish and we signed my oldest up to the RCIA for kids. And my youngest was young enough still for us to just take the baptism classes.
This was a very difficult time in our lives, my husband had lost a job and had just found work with 2 full time jobs and I was working part time. We were completely overwhelmed and unable to navigate the process without help. Of which we got little. I later contacted the head of religious education and spoke with her about the need to set up a program to guide people who were returning after a long time, through the process. And she agreed that the ball is often dropped and people don’t follow through with the entire program.
Again, this was a difficult and frustrating experience. I sometimes wonder if it’s a test of my tenacity or a message that I’m barking up the wrong tree LOL.
A few weeks ago we decided that we need to do something in regard to our children’s religious education so we tried the local United Church of Christ. The people there were wonderful, very kind and welcoming. The church has tons of programs for kids.
Still, it didn’t feel like home. I don’t belong there. My children don’t belong there. I miss the ritual and the formality. It felt like I was sitting someones living room in the church we tried. I didn’t feel the sacred. I more than anything miss receiving Communion and reconciliation
I cried in the parking lot of the church this past Sunday and we didn’t end up going. I have been praying and reading and meditating on this issue for weeks and I think I need to act. I think that all this back and forth is confusing form my children too.
I don’t want to get on the track only to be completely frustrated and forgotten in the process. My family has some unique circumstances that need to be dealt with before we can all be in full union with the Catholic church.
Do any of you have any suggestions, prayers or guidance for me?
Thanks in advance for your consideration