My cousin is getting married next spring, and is marrying a non-catholic.
She was raised catholic, but is not confirmed. The reason she’s not confirmed is because during the time of her life when she’d have been in religous ed, her ultra-devout catholic parents were having a horrendous divorce. Their divorce was one of those knock-down drag out events that spanned ther entirety of her teen years. The two kids were torn apart (one lived with each parent), and the parents spoke badly of the other parent in their presence. The marriage was eventually anulled (never remarried), further confusing my poor cousin about the faith. Unfortunately, she believes in God, but not exactly the church.
She’s just been engaged to a wonderful man, who is not catholic. He was raised (and his parents are) Hindi. He is not particularly religous, but is not opposed to having the children baptized catholic. He won’t participate in the faith, however.
They want an outdoor wedding (winery).
Her father has refused to attend and she’s distraught. I called to speak with him last night in order to understand his decision. He said he’s an old man (73) and all his time is spent in spiritual activity. He doesn’t want to do anything that would compromise his soul. By attending the secular wedding, he’d be endorsing it, and that’s a sin.
She’s offered to have two weddings, one in the church (for family) and the main one (at the winery), but wants her father at both… I haven’t yet told her she can’t do this unless she’s confirmed and he’ll convert first, but I didn’t want to bring it up yet. He said he couldn’t go to the secular wedding in good conscience.
He promised to speak with his pastor today, before they meet for dinner tonight. I’m praying for his compassion and understanding.
Help me understand this situation. Is it a sin to attend a non-catholic wedding??? That seems CRAZY to me.
Didn’t Jesus love everyone? Including the non-Jewish Samaritans?