I am a 24 yr old man and I am on my journey back to the catholic faith. Since I returned to my faith (and even long before) I have felt a strong desire to one day get married and have a family. That said, I also struggle with anxiety and a great deal of fear about not finding someone and being single over the long term (especially when I'm actively dating and dealing with rejection).
Now I know that Jesus says the best antidote for morbid fear is trust. I also know first hand that my trust in Christ has helped to overcome so much anxiety in my life. Unfortunately, I am having difficulty trusting in God when dating largely due to the following passage:
Corinthians 7:8: Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.
In this case, my attempt to trust in Christ seems to be making my anxiety and fear worse since I fear that if I leave it up to God to lead me to my wife, he will chose single life for me since it seems to be a higher vocation according this portion of scripture. As a result I feel this need to become emotionally involved in my dating life which is creating neediness and unhealthy tendencies and probably damaging my ability to meet the right woman in the first place!!
I would really like to resolve this issue in my head so I can get back to loving God with my whole heart and not holding anything back from Him (such as my dating life).
Could you please help me?