[quote="Morwenna, post:2, topic:326886"]
Before I go into a big 'spiel' ;) I want to be sure I'm remembering your situation accurately. If I remember correctly, you have mental/psychological needs that require fairly frequent doctor visits, and your (former? current?) insurance would only cover a very limited number of visits for these specific issues, maybe 3 per year ... ? And that was one of the bigger hurdles for you in seeking a job, because you needed more frequent visits ... Is that right?
It's part of it, anyway. I do have some fairly significant mental health issues...hopefully treatable but it's a slow and expensive process. There's a bundle of issues...I need therapy once a week, plus psychiatric care for medications, plus the medications themselves. I'm on my parents' insurance right now; my school does offer a plan but it covers very little (5 visits a year, I think) and has quite high copays. It's complicated by the fact that my health severely limits the hours and type of work I can do - and perhaps more immediately, severely interferes with my ability to find and apply for work.
[quote="TheRealJuliane, post:3, topic:326886"]
I won't lie to you; it's harder to set and keep boundaries when one is beholden in some way to the person needing the boundaries. It can be done, but it can be tricky. And it's never 100% satisfactory.
I have no solution to your problem. I will add you to my prayers however. I hate it that people such as yourself are marginalized and forced onto public assistance. It's no kind of life to live.
Thanks. Honestly the welfare system has been so frustrating. You'd think I'd be the type of person they'd want on public assistance - I'd be using it to, you know, actually get treatment and an education for a job I could work with better given my own limitations. But no, it's set up so that it's basically impossible to do anything to better your own situation without being cut off completely. I want to get back to being a productive member of society as soon as I can!
[quote="skigirl1689, post:4, topic:326886"]
I am in a very similar situation, reliant on family for my care. However, I was able to go away to school for a couple of years and had a taste of independence. I did get SSI during this time so I would look into this further. Are you in the U.S.?
It is tough...I feel like I am torn between being an adult, making my own decisions, but still being a child in my parents' house. They do usually treat me as an adult but sometimes too much so, pulling me into issues I have no control over and that should not concern me. I tend to stay in my room whenever things get tricky and avoid some of the conflict, not that there is a lot.
I wish I had more advice for you...please know you're not alone in dealing with issues such as this.
I'm in the U.S. It's complicated by a very bad relationship with my mother - she's always been very controlling. I still haven't told her about my conversion, I'm afraid to because she'll be furious at me for "not listening to her advice." I know she's terrible for my mental health, she's always trying to "help" in completely unhelpful ways. And I'm caught in that bad spot where I'm not totally disabled but still can't quite make it on my own.