Ok, so I don’t really know where else to turn. I have been married a year now, to my husband. My concerns predominately lack from his ability to understand limits, especially with drinking.
He was on a business trip for training for 2 weeks, and it just happened to be during our wedding anniversary. He decided to go out on the night before our anniversary and get drunk and stay out until 2 am, even though I told him this was not appropriate and it made me uncomfortable. The arguments started there, and lasted three days, with some very harsh words (that he envied other people’s wives, and that I was crazy, to name a few). We have worked through it, but the truth is, I’m scared. It’s the same argument we have had a million times before, and he really doesn’t see anything wrong with what he is doing. It doesn’t matter that it hurts me, it doesn’t matter if this is a business environment. I’m trying to get through it, without breaking down again, but the truth is, I’m feeling lost. I tried contacting the Deacon at our church, who we are close with to see if I could sit down with him and discuss my concerns and possibly get references for a Catholic Therapist. When I told my husband this, he exploded.
I can’t talk to my friends, because my husband doesn’t like that, and now today, when I went online to look for a therapist for me to go to alone or with him, he was angry/hurt again.
After all that, he decided to go out drinking again tonight. I really don’t know what to do. I have prayed on this, and honestly, I am feeling pretty alone and lost right now. He has an addictive personality and has had issues in the past with drinking and drugs. He accepts that he used to have a problem but sees nothing wrong with his behavior now. We are young (26 and 28) but we want to start our family very soon and I just, I don’t know what to do. I appreciate any wisdom