This is a family management nightmare. 2 cats a dog that I don’t want and no one takes care of properly. If I get rid of them they shut down to me. The house is a wreck and I can only do so much to help. The account had up to $500 of NSF charges just this past month. I’m afraid to see what it looks like previously. She’s just not thinking clearly and any attempt to get hold of it is lethal in that she just throws a fit…she can’t handle the stress. I can’t get a hold of this money waste because of not having absolute control. That’s not going to happen so what to do. When I try to discuss it she blows… I know its associated with feeling worthless. But that’s not what it’s about. We need that money. She just blew about 10 minutes ago. I typically bottle it up for months at a time and then I have a mini breakdown despirate to fix it.
Also the kids just seems to never need sleep and won’t sleep leaving us no time. I’d paddle their butts if mom would let me because nothing else works. The irony is that she’s really good with kids. But if your own kids are little energizer bunnies…then what do you do? My oldest is in honors Jr. High Honor Societ, band and football. He’s also a emotional wreck. It’s just become too much all the way around. We’re not the types to do all we can do. But I’m having to make him quit football now. All his friends are doing the same. Except we have 3 kids compared to their 1 or 2. It makes a big differenc. I can’t stand that these animals poop all over our house either. But I can’t be the one to get rid of them. I said no to the puppy several times but they, along with mom kept insisting on it and now they won’t take care of her properly so she ends up pooping everywhere. I thought cats were supposed to be clean, but they poop and pee everywhere they can get. I’m ready to pull my hair out. Life’s not supposed to be like this. Or is it?
I don’t want to hurt her feelings or the kids but no matter how I try to discuss it she blows and leaves the room. I pray for her all the time. She has a lot on her plate without all of this. I’m at my whits end. I tried to set up a meeting with Father but he had to cancel and hasn’t responded to an attempt to reschedule today. Maybe his plate is too full. There’s ton’s more but not appropriate to discuss here. Both of us entered this marriage with lots of baggage. We get along fine usually. But anytime I get to the end of my rope she’s already broke down, so I try not to burden her. Trying to fix anything seems lethal. So I have no idea what to do except pray. It seems that the evil one is really trying to make chaos out of the good that has transpired in our lives. Conversion, vocations, etc.
Praying to St. Joseph is a good idea. I don’t know why I don’t remember that. I guess I just have to get used to it. I pray the rosary daily as does my wife. We have a good relationship. But we just have a lot on our plate at one time and no options at this point for relief.