There is a thread right now about how singles feel invisible in the Catholic Church. I just wanted to flip the topic and mention that I have been feeling left out by single women in my parish.
There is a very tight group of women in my parish that are in their 40s and single. I have become very close friends with one of them. She is a sweatheart, so I don’t want to give the wrong impression.
Here’s the thing: I have been close friends with this girl now for a year. She has introduced me to her friends and while they are friendly with me, they are also very unfriendly with me. This group of girls also have very close priest friends (one in particular) and they get together for dinners, etc all the time.
My girlfriend and her friends make me feel very unwelcome to become part of their group. I have been very kind and friendly to them, but they are not interested in inviting me along to any of their get togethers. For example, they do brunch every Sunday after mass and not once in the past year have I been invited (although I do have my daughter with me, so maybe that’s the reason :shrug:). They in fact hurry my friend if she’s chatting with me after mass and say that they have to get going for brunch. BTW…I go to mass alone with my daughter every Sunday.
I am also good friends too with the priest that they are close to, so it’s not like I’m not friendly with the priests either. Everyone in their group knows me at least as an acquaintance. My close friend has mentioned or hinted a couple of times that they keep their parties small so they can all fit into someone’s house…come on!! There’s only one of me and perhaps my husband (which he’s usually busy with our house or his studying anyway). My husband really likes these people at my parish and would be completely ok with me going out with them.
It just confuses me at the way these single women treat me. I think they are all very nice people (don’t get me wrong), but on the flip side, they are making ME feel invisible and it often hurts my feelings to the point where I feel hesitant to attend church activities b/c I know afterwards that they are all going to go out together afterwards and I go home alone :(.