Hello, I have a friend who has started going to Extraordinary Form Masses. These Latin Masses are quite beautiful and I appreciate their reverence, but I don’t feel as comfortable as I was raised in the Ordinary Form. Typically it’s easier for me to worship God more fully in my native tongue, to understand how to best enter into worship. My pastor has very reverent, traditional Ordinary Masses in an old Gothic church: luckily no liturgical abuses anywhere.
My friend is pressuring me to switch to Latin Masses as they work as a “math equation”: more prayers = more reverence to God. “It is objectivity more reverent than NO, no discussion. It is impossible for NO Masses to be as reverent as the Latin Mass, etc.” He attacks my uncomfortableness as a sign of weakness and says we should be willing to be uncomfortable for holiness. I agree with him and recognize suffering as essential for our spiritual journey; but my parish is my home.
I’m feeling increasingly guilty for attending the Ordinary Form as it is less reverent than the Extraordinary Form. I have struggled with debunking sedevacantism in the past, as that crowd has unfortunately poisoned my attraction to the Extraordinary Form. My friend is not a sede, but he is quite traditional (but there’s nothing wrong with that). I am not opposed to the Latin Mass, but I also see reverence and validity in the Ordinary Form. What do you think? Is my friend right? Ought I be willing to attend a different form of Mass to better worship God, and leave my current parish?