I've been in my church for 2 years. In that time, I've volunteered my time in many different committees and at many different events. Until recently, I've been happy to do so as I am single and have no kids or other commitments that would hinder my involvement in the same way that having a family would.
Unfortunately, I have come to realize that in my church, many of the committees are run by people with families and the participation is extremely low despite having had a huge push for time in ministry (our parish has about 70 "ministries") in the fall. In one of my committees I tried to set up a one-time meeting just to try and get some response and it upset the chairperson so much that we nearly had an argument over it although I told her I wouldn't have it if she didn't want me to. The problem is that I never get any response from anyone in trying to elicit help and it's very frustrating. There are enough people in the group that you'd think they could even respond and say thanks but no thanks.
What I don't get is if nothing is happening in the group and someone is trying to re-energize it by trying, and you, as the head of the group aren't doing anything to try, either, why get upset? I've also done so much leg work on an event for another committee only to have the chairperson drop the ball totally and never respond to me because she was too busy.
I feel very frustrated and sad over trying to help and I wasn't asking for the moon or anything outrageous. The church will die, the committees will die, if nothing is happening and there is no participation.
I have decided that I will fulfill my obligations until the spring and the last event that I have committed to and then I'm going to change my membership and just not be involved in anything.
The Catholic church teaches so much about service and using talents, but in reality, it seems to be only for those with families, as if having a kid or at least a family gives you Catholic credibility. And so singles don't come to church because they don't feel welcome.
I'd rather be the paint on the walls than be involved anymore.
Why is it that even Catholics don't even want their single brothers and sisters to keep the Church alive? I do not get this at all. :(:shrug: