Hello there everyone,
I got married last summer to a very wonderful man in a very beautiful church. Couldn’t have asked for a more beautiful day
My husband’s parents divorced when he was very young. It was a very bitter divorce. He married a 2nd time. This one ended as well and it was even worse than the 1st.
about a year into our relationship his Father starts wanting us to drive him around everywhere and if he didn’t do this he’d be calling my husband’s phone while we were out asking him to pick up up beer.
Then the wedding. Oh where to start with this.
Only a few months before did my husband’s father start having issues. He won the lottery about a year before that and only gave my husband $80.00. Then there was the tux thing. We picked one out for him and he freaked out about it and said he wasn’t wearing one that he was going to buy a navy blue suit. I told my husband that if he didn’t wear one that he wouldn’t be sitting at the head table. My husband managed to reason with him and we came to find out that the reason he didn’t want to wear it was because the vest and the tie were silver and that’s what he wore to his 2nd wedding that ended so bad.
My husband was away trainning for the military and didn’t come home until 2 weeks before the wedding. I really needed help with things because my parents were doing so much and were so exhausted. I had to practically beg him. All I wanted him to do was pick up pop for the reception. 19 bottles. They were only 88 cents a freakin bottle. He proceeds to tell me he’ll do it if my husband will pay him the money he owes him. Also we had people in the wedding party drop out on us and we had to replace them. At one point when my husband was away and only had so much phone time he asked me if I would ask his father to be Best Man. So I did. He said no way because he doesn’t stand up in front of people or talk in front of them.
Then the wedding day gets even closer. I told my husband’s father that he needed to be at the rehearsal. Then he drops off my sister in law and leaves.
The day of the wedding he wore his sunglasses inside the church and would not take them off. His girlfriend at the time helped herself to the corsage that was meant for the lady doing the reading.
I also failed to mention that about a month before the wedding he ran into my mom at the mall and got in a fight with her because he felt we were too young and going into it too fast. My mom set him straight.
also my husband never atcually got a “real” bachelor party because his father’s girlfriend “had” to come along and used the excuse well I have to drive everyone home. What happened to calling when you need to be picked up?!
My father in law and this woman got engaged this past Christmas. We found out from outside resources and they never told either of us. They said they thought they did but they didn’t. Then this past spring they took off to vegas and said they were just going on vacation and when they came back they were married. My sister in law ( she lives with my father in law cuz she has a foot disorder) called us up crying because my father in law told her that they weren;t going to get married and they did she felt betrayed. My sister in law was hoping to be there if they did.
I knew my Father in law’s wife long before him. We go way way back. I met her in high school. Anyway now this lady is different. She acts like she runs the show. They don’t even live in the same house but yet she steers my father in law in all kinds of directions. She tried to talk him into selling his house. She tries way too hard to get me, my husband, and his sister to like her.
They treat my sister in law like a child. They’ll take off for the weekend somewhere and call here expecting my husband to go check on his sister who is 25 yrs old and completely fine alone.
They buy my husband these crazy extravgant gifts for holidays and give me these weird looks like “haha we can afford this and you can’t” kind of looks.
My father in law always makes her call when he wants something.
Like I mentioned. We did let many things go. Eventually my husband and his sister did accept her as their step mom but made it clear that they were going to call her by her first name because they already have a mom. She still signs cards as “Mom”.
They treat my Mother in law like garbage. and say bad stuff about her in front of us. She came to visit this past Christmas and my Father in law’s wife insulted her and said she looked like a street person and then went to walmart and bought her new sneakers, a new coat and new luggage because she felt sorry for her.
This woman’s kids well she has 2. Her daughter is a great person but her son not really. We’ve tried to reach out to him and he wants nothing to do with us and we’ve never done anything to him.
My husband and I both feel like everything has to be there way all the time. My father in law’s wife is a little too involved and always tries to solve everything and offers unsolicited advice.
Last night was the last straw. We went out to dinner for my husband’s birthday. I didn’t want to go but I went for my husband because I love him. The son of my father in law’s wife who doesn’t like us showed up. He’s nice to our faces. Probably because his birthday was being celebrated too and they were paying for it. Anyway when we were getting ready to leave I moved over by the front door so I could get reception on my phone to call a cab. Her son said something to her but I didn’t really hear it that well. I then heard her say “It’s only been since he’s married her” I glance over and there body language tells me “oops” like they were trying to be quiet. This made me really mad. I did my best to let everything go and now this.
I’m at my whits end. I’m am terrified that it’s going to come to the point that either I’m going to have to leave or my husband tells me that he’s leaving.