A coworker of mine died this week, suddenly in her apartment (she was an older middle-aged woman with some health problems–although I didn’t know things were that serious). She was kind of a friend of mine (we were starting to form a friendship–but I’ve only been on the job less than 6 months). She was a devote Catholic and we used to spend time chit chatting about the Church, what we were doing for Lent, when I brought my daughter to work she gave my daughter little tasks to do, etc. I would share life stories with her and vice versa and she showed me around the town (where all the good lunch shops were), etc.
Well, her death bothers me (of course) since I miss her. But what bothers me the most is how it’s being handled at work. We are to tell people she is no long “with the company.” Yes, that’s true, but it almost feels like it’s disrespectful… like saying she was fired. Why can’t we say she passed away? And in a way, it’s like no one cares. I didn’t know her as long as anyone else here, but they all seem to be acting as if, “oh well.” I don’t want people to mope or anything, but in a way it’s like they are acting like she was fired or suddenly quit.
Luckily I am not in a position where I will get asked much about her passing since I would have a hard time saying “she is no longer with the company” because of what it implies, but it still bothers me. I am not sure why I am posting this, other than to just get this feeling off my chest.