A little while ago I had a dilemma, my brother was having the baptism for his baby on the same day as my wife’s close cousin was having first Holy Communion of her daughter in a different country on the same day.
I came on here and had some good replies, afterwards my wife decided it was too expensive to fly to the first Holy Communion so I thought that we would all be going to the baptism.
Unfortunately last year my wife and my sister had a stupid argument on the internet and my wife is refusing to go because my sister will be there and she doesn’t want to see her. She said I could take the children if I wanted although they will probably protest that mummy is staying and I will end up going alone which I do not want.
Our children will be three in a few weeks and earlier my mum text me that her and my sister would like to visit with my sister’s daughters on their birthday. When I told my wife she said she said if my sister comes then she will leave and our children won’t have their mother on their birthday.
Why can my wife not see that the only person that is getting hurt here is me? Does my sister care about something she doesn’t know about? Of course not but I feel trapped in all this.
The amount of times I have spent weeks in a small house with her family on holiday, really not enjoying it, maybe even some of her family members annoying me but I stay nice for her as they are her family and I don’t want to upset her or cause problems.
I am sick of being the person that is always trying to make other people happy and keeping the peace and yet I am constantly stressed out.
The argument, if you can call it that was pathetic. No major insults or anything.
There is no talking to my wife, she has made her mind up and that is it. If I were to try and compromise I would only make it worse. I can easily talk my mum and sister out of visiting on our children’s birthday as I would like it to be a simple affair and I am working the following day but the baptism will force me to choose between wife and the rest. I am married to my wife, not my siblings but it will happen again and again in the future.
She says she loves me, I have bitten my tongue so many times, why can’t she do it once?
Sorry for long post.