How old are you? If you’re under 40, I’d consider reading up on the cons of having your ovaries removed at such a young age. Read the Premature Menopause Book by Kathryn Petras (www.earlymenopause.com)). Early menopause raises a whole host of health concerns that women aren’t supposed to face until their fifties.
I had a complete hysterectomy nine months ago (at 30) b/c of a kind of ovarian cancer. I won’t lie to you, my PMS symptoms that caused me great difficulty (migraines, depression, anxiety, and mood swings) have decreased. But, b/c I’m in menopause unnaturally early, I need to take some kind of estrogen if possible, in order to protect my bones and heart health. It turns out the estrogen was what was causing those symptoms. But, I need that estrogen, otherwise I could have osteoporosis in the next few years. I’ve spent the last few months trying to find a balance. If I take my estrogen daily, I’m depressed and have several day long migraines. If I don’t take it daily, my hot flashes, night sweats, and insomnia get worse. Early menopause is a challenging road.
Another thing to consider is that you may someday get married and want to have children. You say you don’t feel called to marriage, but what if that changes. DH and I don’t have children now. We’re in the middle of our adoption journey. I believe with all my heart that this is the path that God intends for us to walk, but it is SO HARD somedays I can hardly bear it. Everyone else seems to get pregnant so easily, yet DH and I will never bear children. I know I’ll love our adopted kids as much as if I gave birth to them, but it seems like our journey to be a family has been such a hard one for us.
I don’t mean to be so wordy, and I can’t tell you what to do. I did want to share a bit of my story since I can tell you what life is like post-hyst. While I am happy with my life and generally a very happy, optimistic person, I wouldn’t wish this on anyone, if that makes sense. I would not have had a hysterectomy for any reason other than my cancer. There are treatments for depression, for migraines, that don’t involve a major surgery. I do hope you can find help for your symptoms, they are miserable, but I don’t believe this is the way to go.