Fertility Drugs


#1

I went to a new Dr. the other day for a routine visit and mentioned to him that I had been trying to get pregnant for the last two months – He suggested that if I hadn’t gotten Pregnant yet then maybe I need to look into fertility drugs and he would be happy to write me a RX for them. I told him again that it had only been a few months (I am only 25) and I would just wait and see what happened. He then looked at me and said “So you don’t really want to get pregnant then do you.” I told my husband and he agreed with me, but now I am feeling like I am doing something to keep myself from getting pregnant by not taking the drugs. I would just like to hear from someone else that I am not doing anything wrong by not taking fertility drugs yet. I can’t talk to my mom because I would like her first grandbaby to be a surprise.

Thank you!


#2

Find a new doctor, this one is a smart a** and and idiot. Two months is not enough time to assume a fertility problem. Reputable doctors will not start looking at infertility until you’ve gone **a year ** without conception. Two months certainly isn’t an indication that there is any sort of problem or that you need fertility drugs-- which are nothing to play with… does he hand out prescriptions like candy??? I’m serious, do not go back to this doctor. He is either irresponsible, poorly trained, or both.

I’d suggest that if you are not already charting using NFP, that you do so. It can increase your chances of conception and can also alert you to any real problems with your cycle. Visit www.ccli.org or www.creightonmodel.com for info.

And, not that you will have problems, but if you do then I suggest the Pope Paul VI institute, www.popepaulvi.com. They only do treatments that are within Catholic teaching.


#3

Wow, that Dr. sounds a little rushed to me! I’d find another doctor!

Pregnancy doesn’t just happen at the snap of the fingers, it can take several months to have any luck. Keep in mind that every cycle, even if everything is timed correctly, there is only a 1 in 4 chance of a pregnancy occuring.


#4

Thank you!!!


#5

IF there are any fertility issues you will want someone who is kind and compassionate for the journey-which is VERY emotional and leaves you feeling incredibly vulnerable and exposed on many levels! This is a red flag for this Dr.! I was told 15 years ago that a YEAR of not conceiving is an indication that there MAY be problems and further testing would be required. The Dr. should determine first IF you are ovulating and/or if there are physical issues inside your tubes, etc.
God Bless you and your husband
That first baby is such a wonderous time for a deep expression of your sacramental love!!!


#6

RUN and find a new doctor. Preferably, one who doesn’t speak so snidely to his or her patients.

It sounds like this was your unfortunate, yet important introduction to the concept that doctors are humans too, and not all-knowing. I once had to listen to my dentist–dentist!–lecture me that breastfeeding doesn’t delay ovulation & there could be something wrong with me & my cycle. I took many deep, cleansing breaths, explained that he was mistaken, refrained from pinching his head off, but also did not go back to him.

I second the recommendation to learn the Creighton Model. It is truly a blessing for all couples, whether postponing or trying to acheive pregnancy. What many people do not realize is that through standardized charting with the Creighton Model, a woman who is having difficulty conceiving can take her chart to any instructor or practitioner who will recognize the likely problem, simply through the way her chart looks.


#7

Did the doctor you saw give you reason to believe you’d have trouble conceiving other than just trying for two months? Do you have long irregular cycles or anything? Even so, I’d consider going to another doctor. You don’t necessarily have to change clinics, but at least see someone else.

I would also support looking into the Creighton Model of NFP. For a list of locations: galaxymall.com/health/fcca/dir.html You have a 90% chance of conceiving in the first three months of fertility focused intercourse. If by the sixth cycle there is no pregnancy, then considering other options is reasonable. But, again your Practitioner and doctor can use your charting to see if there may be issues.


#8

[quote=Hope75]Did the doctor you saw give you reason to believe you’d have trouble conceiving other than just trying for two months? Do you have long irregular cycles or anything? Even so, I’d consider going to another doctor. You don’t necessarily have to change clinics, but at least see someone else.

I would also support looking into the Creighton Model of NFP. For a list of locations: galaxymall.com/health/fcca/dir.html You have a 90% chance of conceiving in the first three months of fertility focused intercourse. If by the sixth cycle there is no pregnancy, then considering other options is reasonable. But, again your Practitioner and doctor can use your charting to see if there may be issues.
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Nope no other reason - this was the 1st and only time he will ever see me :). I just got the CCLI NFP book in the mail and I have read the 1st five chapters and I am learning alot, hopefully this information will help. Thank you all, I knew that something wasn’t right with using fertility drugs after only a few months, but it was nice to hear it from all of you too! :smiley:


#9

I believe that, according to the CCL handbook, infertility can be diagnosed only after 12 months of timed trying (that is, during periods of known fertility) and after 2 years of “random” trying.


#10

Oh my! It is absurd a medical professional would recommend fertility meds based on the circumstances described. The general recommendation is a year if a woman is under the age of 35 and 6 months for those 35 and older. I believe Hope75 is correct about the 6 months if using CrMS. I believe other NFP methods recommend different guidelines. This doctor probably would not have managed you while on the meds, at least that is common among the doctors in my area.

I pray you and your DH have a surprise for your mom very soon!!!

God bless,
Autumn


#11

You are only 25?? I understand you are anxious for children, but you have sooo much time. My aunt was told many years that she could not have children. She and her husband adopted. Many years later she had one of her own. Two years after that she had another!!! You are so young, and there are so many reasons why you are having trouble conceiving. Keep trying!!


#12

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