I made an error of pming some people I thought I could help…but it was pointed out that I needed to create an official post so here goes…
I am new…long story short…visited the forum for some confirmation on something…longer story short…i am 42 years old. Remarried to my wonderful DH since Jan 06…he will be 51 at the end of this month. I have a stepdaughter 20, and my son is 14 yrs…my DH takes to him and vice versa as if it were his own. I am currently leaving the tvl profession to answer God’s call to the nursing field…I have been accepted and will start full time in Aug of this year. DH being able to support us during the 22 mos enables me to not have to work while going to school though it will be tight. Recently (Apr 23) I had a miscarriage at about 6 weeks.
Now my question! I found the forum in searching on informaton about dontdoit group as DH was going to have a vasectomy to prevent further anguish to me and what we also felt “our” but God’s plans were for me to go into the nursing field (to answer Jesus’ question “what have you done for my children”) and also since he does renovations…he ‘sees’ himself somewhere building ‘huts’ for the unfortunate.We were falling prey to the thought process that the church is wrong…church rules not “God” rules biblical etc…however in research We see now this was a HUGE error…and PRAISE GOD! we now even at this age are open to his plan. To be honest since my mom went through the change at 39, I always thought I would follow and not be able to conceive…I see God may have other plans! Anyway I read all about NFP and I’m not keen on it…basically our stance is this…“let go and let God”…now the thing that I guess concerns me or worries me…is I am 42 now…I suppose without using anything then I “could” have maybe 7 more! …b/c again we don’t want to use any sort of method.
I do believe he will not give us more than we can handle…I do believe it’s God’s ultimate choice…but I guess what I’m asking is …is it irresponsible to leave it completely up to God as in we are not using discernment i.e. NFP and we may be biting off more than God intended…or is it if you do believe God has wisdom over all…you just simply wouldn’t get pregnant with that many more at my advanced age etc… I have concerns as I’m starting nursing school…finances etc…but since my DH and I do not have a child between us…we are more than open to that blessing now…not sure how I will juggle classes and such…but I do know through God all things are possible…I am even open to having 3 more if that’s his will…I say an arbitrary number as our house is small! However…I do believe if he does bless us…he will also provide…but there are many in conventional thinking/world thinking that thinks this is craziness…to just think that…I just wondered what your thoughts were on this.
I didn’t want to post a general message…as there can be some harsh feedback…but anyway interested on some “older” moms thoughts on this I guess…I pretty much know that I will trust and continually pray on it with God…I do feel that you can’t go wrong when you are constantly asking for his guidance…and children are always a blessing in that context.
Thanks for reading,